Super Mom: How do you Do It?
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Something funny happened this summer. I decided not to send my oldest son to preschool summer camp, because I thought it would be fun to be able to do whatever we wanted. It was probably one of the bigger mistakes I’ve made since becoming his mother. You see, my son is a bit on the high maintenance side of things. But, he was doing so well during the year that I thought the summer would be no problem at all. It turns out that it’s the structure of school that keeps my little munchkin sane. The first few weeks of summer break were great. We went to the zoo, the children’s museum and many other local attractions. We met up for play dates and spent lazy afternoons watching cartoons. But, before long the tide started to change and I was in over my head. By late July, I was on the brink of a nervous breakdown.
This is where it gets interesting. Around the same time I thought I was cracking up, a friend surprised me when she said, “I don’t know how you do it all.” I didn’t know what she meant. After all, I’m in the trenches just like everybody else….Right? Then she started listing all these things I do. She said, “You organize freezer cooking for your friends, gather all the recipes and do all the shopping. You cook all these amazing meals from scratch for your family. You organize moms’ night out every month. You’re always posting interesting things on facebook, have all these great tips and know where all the deals are. You’re taking care of the kids full time and you still find time to blog.” My response: “Well, when you say it like that, no wonder I’m about to break down.” Seriously, I had no idea how much I had taken on…nor did I know that I look so good doing it all.
That’s when I decided it was time to book a pedicure! No seriously, a lot of people ask me how I do everything, and it always floors me. Because, you know what? Truth is, I’m wondering the same thing about everybody else. I’ve taken on the moniker of The Average Parent because I feel like I’m just that. I don’t suck, but I’m not great either. I’m sure there are lots of people who think I’m doing the job of super mom…but little do they know, that I’m thinking the same thing about them! If you’re wondering how I manage to cook from scratch for my family; I’m wondering how you mange to keep your house so clean. To the mom’s who wonder how I find time to blog and hunt down great deals: I’d like to know how you never forget to bring an extra set of clothes or a jacket just in case it gets chilly (I never remember that shit!) I feel like it’s obvious I’m unraveling at the seams, and everybody else looks like they have it all together. But, I’m lucky because all of you to remind me that I’m not alone.
I think about this topic a lot. So, I was really happy when Eversave contacted to participate in a blog carnival in conjunction with the release of Sarah Jessica Parker’s upcoming movie I Don’t Know How She Does It. Have you seen the preview? Although I watched it after writing my post, I think it about sums up what I’m trying to say here. If you’re like me and you’re wondering what other bloggers are saying, hop on over to Mom Generations to connect with everybody.
How I Do It
If you’re still wondering how I keep my head above water, here it is: I’m lucky in that my husband is very supportive in allowing me to have plenty of “Me Time”….but from what I hear, others aren’t so lucky. Eversave told me that they polled more than 700 moms and 35% said they find time for themselves at least once a month. Come on, moms (and dads), that’s unacceptable. Those numbers need to be higher! You NEED to make it a priority to find “Me Time” and it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Because as the saying goes: If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!
I make a point to spend time with my friends at least once a month. As mentioned above, we call it “Moms’ Night Out,” and in my house, it has a dedicated line item in the family budget. I get $25 a month to go out with my friends. Now, I know that really doesn’t sound like a lot, but being the frugal gal that I am, I’m always able to stretch that $25 to cover everything I need….and often come in under budget. I rely on my Entertainment book for coupons, I sign up for email alerts to my favorite restaurants, I follow the daily deal sites for good deals and I always get discounted movie tickets. Click here for a slew of other ideas for finding cheap entertainment. You can—and should—do it!
Of the mom’s surveyed by Eversave, many said their preferred way to get “Me Time” is through beautification, with spa services such as manicures, pedicures, massages, and facials. I also try to schedule a little time for pampering. For me, this has become more difficult than in the past. In order to save money and get closer to spending down our credit card debt, I’ve stopped getting my hair colored, I no longer get my eyebrows waxed and I’ve severely cut back on my favorite spa services. But, that’s not to say I’ve cut out the spa entirely. I still try to get a pedicure every once and a while…just not as often as I once did. It’s not built into the budget though, so I have to get crafty for this one. Occasionally we’ll come into a little extra money if we sell something on ebay or whatever. Sometimes I’ll come in under budget on groceries and there’s a little extra left for the pedicure fund. And sometimes, I find a deal on a daily deal site that’s too good to pass up. I also sign up for email alerts from local spas, because they often send notices of great deals during their slow periods.
Time for You
If you’re one of the 35% who make it a priority to find “Me Time,” how do you do it? For those of you who are looking for a little boost, Eversave will be offering beautification and pampering Saves in all of their local markets today. Plus, the bloggers who are participating in the carnival will be giving away a Save package to help you on your way. Click here to see what I’m giving away.